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IAmNotBritish, episode three

Happy Brunch Sunday from Florida. Raise your mimosas and let's clink a cheers to a bit of connection between work, notices and ads in your inbox.

It's BRUNCHTIME! Maybe it's the Cancer in me (the sign, not the disease) that wants to make a little food and have you over. Sipping tea while chatting on my couch. That makes me sound like a British therapist. I'm thinking more of Norwegian gezellig, or "good vibes," the feeling of warmth when spending time with people you care about in a cozy environment. My friend Alexander from Norway will like my usage here, especially since you all cannot hear me pronounce it.  

But I'd like to invite you in, with little lamps and twinkle lights and candles. Let you pick a mug from my Mug Wall that fits your mood today. And sit down and ask you how you are. It seems simple enough. But this email will suffice. That's the vibe I'm going for. Welcome.

Today's Deep Breath: (Here's a practical juju nugget. May or may not be helpful.)

Give yourself the same honor, friendship and grace you would to a loved one. The most important loving relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. Be entirely whole alone. Then share your amazing self with others. 

I'm considering how to respond here, to my own thoughts. I'll admit, I do have days where I feel these are genuinely true. Nay, this hour I will be a cynic. The truth is most of us get into relationships without healing our inner child, and as Imago preaches, we heal with the help of our partner.

Maybe the Be Whole mantra was created by folks who have spent half their lives together, beating each other up as they process their emotions, only to wake up, barely friends. And there is the true challenge: be friends, especially when you disagree.

Strive on, my people. Until next time,

Tami Lowe


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