Happy Brunch Sunday from Florida. Raise your mimosas and let's clink a cheers to a bit of connection between work, notices and ads in your inbox.
On the struggle to stay friends: COMPASSION.
I have few friendships that require very little tending. Like heart magnets, we are drawn to each other and we rarely disagree. Other friendships, or most, need my attention. Maybe even effort.
All of us have differing opinions. Beliefs. Of course, we'll have thoughts about OTHERS who think differently than we do. We cannot feel compassion if we are occupied in judgement. They cannot coincide. When our judgey thoughts come up, we must tell ourselves, "Not today, son!"
Compassion is a calm love from your heart to theirs.
DISAGREE! March in the streets. Fight those who are a danger to you, of course. Press charges and get restraining orders. Stand tall, wherever you land. But keep your people close. You're going to need them, and they need you.
Today's Deep Breath: (Here's a practical juju nugget. May or may not be helpful.)
Focusing on our relationships does not require hostess gifts or fresh flowers. We can take a moment to look. Let's see what the other really desires or needs at this time in their lives. Most of us would welcome acceptance of our darkness and our light, and all the wiggles in between. Let's drop our judgement at the door. Be aware of our thoughts for others. Accept our differences. Take a deep breath.
Until next time,
Tami Lowe